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A to Z of Me!

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Mon, 25 Jul 2016 19:24:00 +0000

I saw this in Darshana’s Blog! I was excited to read her list. From there, I visited Anamika’s, Geetika’s, Leo’s and Sanch’s blog. I wanted to be a part of this! So, here it is!

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A- Age: 29

B- Biggest fear: I fear about over-thinking and feeding my fears. Accidents, Losing loved ones and unable to manage my finances and commitments is something that bothers me once in a while.

C- Current time: 10:50 p.m.

D- Drink you last had: Other than water, I only had warm lemon water with honey in the morning. I skipped my orange+tomato+lemon drink today.

E- Every day starts with: My wedding is less than a month away and I am at home now. So my days start with a good stretch and then I check the time on my phone and either *gasp* or wake up with a smile (in case I wake before 7)

F- Favorite Song: I am recently addicted to Neruppu da from #Kabali. I just love the movie!

G- Ghosts, are they real? I’ve grown up listening to ghost stories during my college and training days. When I think about those stories now, I am smiling! I don’t watch any movies or TV shows that talk about paranormal activity.

H- Hometown: Namma Chennai, formerly known as Madrasapattinam.

I- In love with: Other than my family, my better half and Myself (not in a narcissistic way), I am in love with blogging, Writing Poems, Reading, Talking and Dancing, A home garden and Yoga Like

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J- Jealous of: Everyone who do push-ups. For me, it’s like

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K- Killed someone: Many many times.. For the record, in my head.

L- Last time you cried: It was before a week. Anyway, I cry once a month and it’s mostly in the week before my periods.

M- Middle name: My name doesn’t fit in any application forms anyway and that’s without a middle name.

N- Number of siblings: One and only one!

O- One wish: To find a job near home and be the corporate homemaker.

P- Person you last called: My sister. Its dad’s birthday tomorrow. We were discussing about the cake! 😉

Q- Question you’re always asked: Why did you choose to stay at home just because you are getting married?

R- Reason to smile: Joy, my pet. My sister and her love for technology! 😛 The beauty of nature. When my parents argue like kids, my sister and I just sit back enjoy the “reality home show”. When I think about my relationship with Thiagu and the silly and funny moments it is filled with. My adorable granny’s jokes and talks! My sister, Granny and me – The Talkative Trio – We spend half an hour everyday for all the updates and gossips! 😛

S- Sounds that annoy you: Honking and the screeching brake sounds. I just feel like going out and slapping the person right on his/her face! And the constant negative ranting or fights. I walk-out or don’t bother to listen.

T- Time you woke up: I set my alarm to 8 in the morning, but today I woke at 9.

U- Underwear colour: Blue

V- Vacation destination: a) Favourite so far: Coorg and Yercaud b) Wish List (for this year): Wayanad, Goa, GoKarna, The Eastern India, SriLanka. For the years to come: Simply put, rest of India and rest of the world.

W- Worst habit: Over-thinking! Over-thinking and eating junk along with it.

X- X-Rays you’ve had: I twisted my ankle once during my school days. That was the first time, I took an X-Ray.

Y- Your favorite food: Specific South Indian Dishes by specific people! 🙂

Ennai Kathirika Kara Kozhambu with Kootu – My Mom (I can live on this my whole life, but my momma should cook it! :D)

Puli Kozhambu – Ammama

Fried Rice – My sister’s preparation

Non Vegetarian dishes – My mom and my aunties! 😀

My family is born to eat! 😛

Z- Zodiac sign: Gemini, The Twins! To the people in my world I am a strong woman, but my search about myself and many things I do the way I do keeps me going on!

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WTFOW5: Day #6: A Woman Has The Right To Say NO

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Sat, 16 Jul 2016 03:00:00 +0000

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Lately, I have heard a couple of incidents where recently married couples have approached the court for divorce. I know what it means and how difficult it can get for the people involved. The first and foremost issue being forced marriage, yes this still happens, in educated families too(mostly). However, the second main reason is being unable to respond during pressure. Many Indian families, from what I understand South Indian parents use status as a key issue. The caste is hidden, but still the social status and peer respect plays a vital role in marriage.

On deeper investigation, it is blowing a simple family scenario, out of proportion by society (let’s call it neighbors, extended family, relatives, blah). They are not even aware of the pressure they are increasing the pressure on the woman who is willing to get married, but not to a particular alliance or at that moment. In the case of marriage, whatever the age of the woman is, it is the right of the woman to decide whom to marry, irrespective of the type of marriage.

Most of the men and women today fall into a common category of engineers and this is not even a primary category for marriage between two humans. However, this is mostly an unfortunate case, marrying other degree holders gives rise to status issues per elders, at least one sector of this kind still exists. Arguing about things like education is not going to change the degree.

Similarly, the salary of a guy outside a particular state (eg. Comparison of Karnataka and Tamil Nadu or Mumbai and Kolkata! (argh.. How stupid?)) would look higher for the age. But for god sake, that might be the normal standard in that state. Never compare the earning capacity of a man or woman with the annual income till date. We never know whether the person is enjoying their job or waiting to quit anytime without our knowledge.

Social Etiquettes (Drinking and Smoking), this gets personal. When a person says he/she is an occasional drinker/smoker, ask what are their occasions anyway? Indians have at least a festival a month, who knows the guy/girl, might drink during all these occasions. Till you get personal with the person do not trust this statement, and if you want a total teetotaller there are very few who exist, but I guarantee you will find one! J

If people around you throw tantrums to keep you quiet, just walk out of the place, but be stubborn with your decision. They are not going to live life after marriage. It’s you who is going to face the truth a little later than much before. Walking out a little late could have its consequences where the same people who threw tantrums and said you will change once you get married will be in the opposite bench waiting to trash you and say you should have made tantrums and stopped.

Remember, Everyone in this world needs breathing space to clear their head and make their very own life decisions and take responsibility for their very own decisions.

Last but not the least, rejecting a person’s profile for marriage does not mean rejecting the person itself, but in the most pressured moment, people might make you feel like you are the worst woman/man existing on this earth. But that’s fine. It’s better to cut the cord right there than have plenty of people cutting their cords with you a little later ruining everything you had always wanted.

This gives a stronger chance to believe yourself and trust your guts. And for those who have chosen to cut the cord after marriage, still understand that you are doing this only to eliminate further negativity brought up in the relationship and definitely not once rejecting the person for his/her abilities. This gives peace to move on without feeling guilty and to make better lives in different paths for both.

Belief in self rather than a crowd is a better option at any point in life. You have no idea when they will leave you alone or stamp you.

Appreciate any man or woman who says NO. It’s not a common word, but it’s a word to notice. Everything that really matters in a relationship is love, care and togetherness. Not a thing more. Some fights can make two people closer and two people to walk out quickly. That’s the difference.

Whatever happens some people stay together whereas some other choose to move out for the sake of peace of self.

Finally, all said,

Let go of the person you love

if they come back to you, then you belong together,

if they are running really far away from you, kindly let them go, they were never yours!

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Thanks Write Tribe for this wonderful challenge. I miss that one more day of writing! Still, I enjoyed this challenge completely! 🙂

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WTFOW5: Day #5: Will I Quit Forever?

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Fri, 15 Jul 2016 15:30:00 +0000

#FridayReflections

What’s a big mistake you made? What did you learn from it?

Pain is deep rooted in my heart,

Every step forward is difficult to take,

Problem after problem without solution,

I am in the middle of nowhere,

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

Pain is the only word I have known,

Where is happiness in this life?

Don’t I deserve it ever in this life?

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

I am not able to make both ends meet,

I fight everyday with my wife over money and status,

It’s ages since I laughed or smiled with my kids,

I can’t share what I feel or how I feel,

My feeling of worthlessness increases day by day even after working 9 hours a day,

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

Every side I turn I have debt,

Every work I attempt, ends in failure,

Is my presence in this earth a burden to all?

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

As the rope fails me while attempting suicide,

I look up to god and ask, won’t you let me die too?

I can see my family surrounded by me crying and shouting for me to wake up,

Had I been worthless would they have cried?

Had I been a burden wouldn’t they let me be?

What have I done?

Waking up from death bed isn’t the easiest task,

But that’s the farthest I could go,

I have made up my mind, in god I trust!

I decided to live which is tougher than death!

DEDICATION to all those who choose to live life after facing death before their eyes.

God wants you to live.

Make a promise to God not to choose death during difficult times.

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WTFOW5: Day 4: A World Like That

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Thu, 14 Jul 2016 04:00:00 +0000

This poem is dedicated to Saving Sould

What would have happened?

If I was ever told as a kid that

books were only for the rich?

If every penny I stealthily hid only to buy books

when everyone else needed food to survive?

To the reader in me*,

if there were no free books?

To the writer in me,

if only I had not read and framed everything

with the best companion,

the books I read in the library,

my first place where I learnt to sit and think!

To the power of imagination in me,

if I had not sat down and read various genres?

To the creator in me,

If I had not spent hours after hours

in the libraries

,

feeling secure about my thoughts

and continued to write?

To the viewer in me who is excited

to read and find similarities and enjoy the flow of writing,

To all the times when I had no hope that

I could ever keep a step forward in my life

and there was a book that God showed me

as a path and the courage to keep that step forward?

To all the thoughts and ideas,

had I not written and shared with all people I know

also helped me know myself better than ever!

To all the souls who have found solace in the books?

To the world around me,

which I have learnt to view from every perspective

with the help of books.

To the explorer in me,

if there were no libraries which was more like talking to God

and enjoying the conversations,

To the soul searcher in me,

whose repeated thoughts of negativity hindered the flow within me,

courage, strength and motivation is what

I got from books

and pushed me forward!

To the ability to see the positive side

in most critical situations

and how I learned to analyze situations?

To all the knowledge in me from learning?

The way of Life it has taught me?

To my long stares at the shelves of the school library

to know what genre means and

why everything follows a particular order!

To be with my best companion

without any restrictions,

If I had no way to express all that I learnt?

To the dreamer in me, who has always hoped for the best

and understood that struggle is necessary

to achieve the goals of our life!

To the merriment it brings

to be one with the books

and took us back to the

once lived generations,

To know right from wrong,

To even know the laws you guys frame now!

DEAD…

Closing libraries means demolishing future growth and generations,

Closing libraries is slaving the future and getting closer to doomsday,
Our history is from the books we have seen!

Our present is with the dreams we dream and our future lies in the fulfilled dreams!

There is no past, present or future without books!

This will bring a revolution that people keen on closing libraries will have to face!

Trying to kill people is war, but trying to kill the thirst for knowledge is equivalent to committing a sin to every single being on this earth, that never has moksha!

Me* here indicates the multiple personalities in each human being which has helped human stay sane for years and generations!

This is for Lynn Rosen and WTFOW #5

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Haiku Horizons & WTFOW5 #3: Clock

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Wed, 13 Jul 2016 13:44:00 +0000

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She glanced at the clock,

both hands together at 12

had he understood!

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WTFOW5 Day #2: Learning to Receive

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Tue, 12 Jul 2016 02:38:00 +0000

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Many times when bad things happen, I ask God, “Why me?”
For the first time, I asked God, “Why me?” for a good thing.
I heard an answer that made me smile.

Usually, I am your last hope, but now you have surrendered to me before draining your energy in worry!

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I fret over many things. It doesn’t matter if it’s big or small. I spend too much time over it that I forget it has to be solved “in reality”. At times, the solution that I conceive in my mind makes me feel that I have already accomplished the task. The games mind play! I never used to ask for help even in the most needed times! I have faced some miserable experiences because of this!

My grandmother is my biggest inspiration when it comes to believing in a superior power that exists. Her faith shatters my fears. She lives her life as if God is her friend and he holds her safely in his palms. At 80, she is carefree and enjoys life like there is no tomorrow.

She taught me to leave the problems as well as the credits to God and just live life with gratitude. I was eager, but I was not ready to leave my comfort zone for the struggle. Living mindfully is an unwritten rule to live by daily and there is no looking back once you start it. I had to accept my extreme laziness here and I was an awful procrastinator.

I am slowly changing, but I see the change is happening for the better. Any problem, big or small, I just close my eyes and tell God, I need help. This has done me wonders than anything else. Finally, I don’t feel I am depending on someone for some thing, but I am glad I am talking to God and making life easy!

God taught me one thing, Devotion is the ultimate aim to maintain that connection with the superior power! It could be anyway as long as we feel connected with God! We get from God and give to others. This feeling rules out the option of negativity in me! 🙂

How did you learn to receive?

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Write Tribe Challenge #1: Show Some Stray Love!

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 11:45:00 +0000

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My Bad: I thought the contest starts today! 🙁 My Bad, Apologies for joining late!

The Day’s Post:

I love pets, especially dogs. I have a very alert and super friendly
mongrel. These are well-known traits of this breed. I am a sincere fan of adopting stray dogs over buying toy dogs. Whenever I have dog-conversations with “elite” dog owners, I get a sleazy look because I have a mongrel at home! Seriously, I don’t understand what bothers them that I own a country pet/ mongrel that I adopted from a neighbor nearby.

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I love pets, especially dogs. I have a very alert and super friendly

mongrel. These are well-known traits of this breed. I am a sincere fan of adopting stray dogs over buying toy dogs. Whenever I have dog-conversations with “elite” dog owners, I get a sleazy look because I have a mongrel at home! Seriously, I don’t understand what bothers them that I own a country pet/ mongrel that I adopted from a neighbour nearby.

I have a mongrel who will be 5 this September. We adopted him when he was just 4 months old. My other pet was a Mongrel + Rajapalayam cross. She passed away when she was just 7 months old due to distemper. This incident has changed me a lot, over time. Many people consider barking street dogs as a disturbance. Nowadays, it is also becoming common to raise a complaint and be free of street dogs. One thing to remember here is that street dogs are “guardians of the street” if you know their value. Every street dog has it’s right to live where it wills.

To all those “elite” crowds who think possessing a dog worth Rs. 25,000 or more is a matter of status, I am sorry to say, you have got it entirely wrong. Most people complain about stray dogs barking in the streets and how disturbing it is. Do you know what actually happens on the streets some nights? Do you even have the slightest idea of how street-smart these pets are?

My mother feeds 2 to 3 stray pets every day. They are such sweet loyal beings who protect us. I have noticed they are so protective of their owners that they don’t let any person with wrong intentions come closer. All this just for feeding them once a day. Let me say here, I have more enemies in the street because every time the corporation guys come to pick up the dogs, we ask them to leave them here because they belong to us.

I agree at times I am annoyed by the barking in the middle of the night. These are times I stand by the window and watch what’s happening on the road and why the dog is barking. Almost 3 out of 4 times, it’s due to suspicious behaviour in the street. When we learn to respect the dog, the dog’s barking is more helpful than disturbing.

We human beings live in a stressed world, I don’t like to call it a busy world. No person is too busy to stop and be kind to someone. A kind act is all it takes to make us real human. Help someone in need, that someone might be you, tomorrow!

Every dog is cute, it’s the owner that matters more when it comes to a dog’s behaviour! 🙂

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I want a stable Internet Connection! Is this possible?

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Mon, 13 Jun 2016 11:30:00 +0000

Summer rains cooled Chennai’s heat waves. Even the homeless would have enjoyed that chill rains for sometime. Now Summer is gone and Monsoon is on!

My Internet gets sick during the monsoon! It’s my Internet’s time to face connectivity issues every now and then!

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My Wi-Fi has been acting crazy for almost two weeks now! I am supposed to finish most of my writing work within 5 PM in the evening which I am not able to! I have pending blog posts and writing deadlines almost everyday! Being a freelancer isn’t the most easiest task with intermittent connectivity issues.

My mornings go by helping my mom in the kitchen and finishing my household chores(which I rarely participate, I prefer to sleep)! By the time I am ready to write, my Internet stops working! I am thinking and re-thinking if I need to switch my connection to another service provider! 🙁 My current service provider is good at resolving issues, but not quick.

I do not prefer to spend more money on dongles or other super-high Internet recharge packs. I just registered a complaint with my service provider and I am looking forward to working with them to resolve it!

This, I do not like!

I want my country to offer better customer support to it’s citizens first! I hope to have a stable internet connection soon! It’s awful without the Internet, especially now that I have started updating my blog again! 😉

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Renaissance

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Sun, 01 Nov 2015 18:38:00 +0000

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I don’t know what I should do,

I don’t know what I want to do,

My mind is lost in thought,

I wonder if I have a heart,

Everything that I love suddenly seems to have distanced itself from me.

I forgot what I spoke last on the phone with my best friend,

I forgot the messages I read,

My mind is empty to the things around me,

Everything that I love suddenly seems to have distanced itself from me.

What’s causing me this deep emptiness?

Is it emptiness or is it a mind that is finally free of drama?

Is it the calmness before the storm?

Or is it time to move forward after the storm?

Everything that I love suddenly seems to have distanced itself from me,

This scared me back in time,

But now this feels better!

This made me realize who I am without what I love.

Love brings happiness,

Love teaches patience,

Love makes a person go crazy too!

When there is no love in your heart,

There is no life in your soul.

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The Daily Prayer

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Fri, 30 Oct 2015 05:17:00 +0000

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Bless the policemen and the ambulance drivers who are at service 24×7. The traumatic scenes at the accident spot can leave a scar for even a passer-by. The drivers, the policemen, doctors, nurses and every other person who helps clear the accident scene will remain blessed for a lifetime for their service, since it takes a courageous heart to let go of these thoughts and put on a brave heart to come out and work again.

I Salute You!
I pray for you!

Prayer is more powerful when you pray for others.

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