The last time I wrote about my birthday was before my wedding. The most cliched Last fling before the ring happened when I completed my 29 years. Earlier, I had planned entering my 30’s in a modest way. I was sure that I would be working with a “Just married” tag and go to a vacation at Goa. To keep the long story short, things were different. I landed on my 30 as a new Mom. Totally different than I ever imagined. Undoubtedly, it is one of the most special moments in my life and an unexpected one. That’s what makes my journey all the more special.

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As I stepped into 31, I took the time to thank my family for bearing with me for so long.  As much as I learnt about myself in my 20’s, they learnt so much about me too. They have always known what I liked, but mid and late 20’s taught us what I don’t like as well as what I am not. I really thought of myself as a person who can manage any situation and any person. Yes, I can, with a sense of professionalism, but I learnt that is not how it works with personal relationships. It’s only in my late 20’s I learnt I have strong opinions and also stand by it. I am adamant and believe my own set of rules. I have never believed in fights and have always let things be. I always talk things through and through and through. I ask sorry if I am really wrong. I ask sorry if I hurt someone. Until my mid-20’s, I was a very loud person. Being loud was being happy and felt a joy in expressing myself better. However, I realized I used loudness to fill my emptiness. I used loudness to be heard. Funny, no? I have been very ignorant.  My 20’s makes me who I am today. I failed in relationships, but also found my man in my 20’s. I am glad it all happened in my 20’s.

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I stepped into 30 with two crucial factors that affects me till date: stress and bothering too much. I have never stressed about anything in life as much as I stress or fuss about Ilakkiya’s food schedule. Similarly, I have hardly bothered about what people say about me. Now, when it comes to taking responsibility for a little one, I bother too much. Being the elder sister that I am, my sister sometimes says that I fuss too much about schedules and I am very inflexible. I am becoming very aware of these traits in me. I recently met a neighbor who told me that I look dull. I told her that I worry too much about my little one. She couldn’t stop laughing. She also told me that this was just a start and there is so much to know about parenting. She told me that little ones keep changing and not to worry too much. Somewhere inside me, I know all is well, but still I want to be very protective of what is mine. Though I know I am doing my best often, it is about those times when I want to sit back and relax and give her simple joy foods. 30 was a very crucial year for me. I began a whole new chapter in my life and felt totally lost at sea.

Somehow, I felt so good on my 31st birthday. People I love wished me and my day started with showers of blessings and loads of love. It wasn’t just the messages, it’s the love in them. I feel so blessed and decided not to stress on parenting anymore. Also, since my word of the year is Simplify, it is helping me in so many areas of my life, I am sure it would help me in parenting too. I would like to keep my parenting straight and simple. More on that soon.

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“We are all fighters!”

This line strikes a chord with me! Earlier these lines troubled me a lot, but nowadays I just simply smile and say, “Let’s face it!”

Aren’t we all fighters? Maybe our fights are different, but at the end it’s all about winning over something or someone who said we never can. Most times, it is the fight about, “Living life on our own terms”.

I have lived many years of my life in denial mode. I had agreed to everything, most of my family wanted. Most in my family know me as the one who never denies any request. In short, “A very good girl”

I wasn’t the happiest of the lots I knew, but all I knew was Go(o)d was on my side! When I rebelled for the very first time, most were astonished. My parents literally laughed and said, “What a surprise?” I felt mocked.

It was treated like I had made the biggest mistake! For a moment, even I felt hot inside. It took me lots of explaining and convincing to follow my track. Nothing seemed to work. I felt very discouraged and at times even felt like a total failure. However, I was only determined not to become ‘the pushover’ I agreed to be, ever again. A fighter was born! I made mistakes in my first fight, but I fought back.

I slowly learned where to fight and what to fight for. Fighting for everything spoils the sport, but sometimes it is the only way. I am still learning to fight and I always will. Just that I am learning to fight better than before. Unexpected events happen in our life, so we find our true strength that lies within us. The choices we make changes our life and everything that comes and goes with it.

 At times, we are our only solace!

I am a Fighter. I know you are too! Fight your fight, because no one else can fight it better than you!

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