“Brothers don’t necessarily have to say anything to each other – they can sit in a room and be together and just be completely comfortable with each other..”– Leonardo DiCaprio
This is a tale of two brothers, Ved and Prem. True to their names, Prem was kind and thoughtful, the most generous person who believed everyone. As good natured as he is, he always talked and resolved everything. Ved measured everyone and everything, a balance sheet in reality. Though smart, he was doubtful about everything.
They blindly liked each other like siblings do until the time when their unmatched opinions became the reasons for their long silence. Prem was already in deep debt, while Ved was constantly falling into troubling times. Something inside them started ticking frequently. They couldn’t stand each other in the same room.
Slowly, Ved started finding fault with Prem’s approach towards everything. Somewhere inside him, Ved strongly believed Prem was the root cause for every trouble. Even as Prem tried to convince Ved, they were not able to see the brighter side of things anymore.
Days passed into months and years, opinions and arguments were only getting worse. Ved had always reached out to Prem for every smallest thing. Prem missed it, it had never bothered him to help. He never said NO to anyone. Ved wanted to be independent, but felt Prem was holding him back. He understood that life must be lived on their own terms. He disconnected.
It took a few years for them to reconnect with each other. As always, Prem was the one to make a call to his brother. He was surprised when Ved agreed to meet him. He knew something had changed for the better.
When they finally met, it was just the two of them. They went for a long drive without talking with each other for a long time. After what looked like ages, they were again in their favourite spot, just completely comfortable with each other.
They had never been like this before. Tears welled their eyes when they finally hugged each other before they left. There was no struggle or fight to stay in each other’s life.
Ved realized that constant judgement and comparison had banished their relationship. He loved what they have now, he cherished it more than ever. He respected the choices they have made in their lives.
They still did not meet eye to eye on many points, but they learned to respect the other person’s decision. They shared a lot with each other and meant well for the other. While others still put on their comparison hat, they decided to not fall prey to it.
All the way long, they had needed just one thing in their life to make this moment happen – SPACE. When they managed to carve out their life in their own way, their newfound freedom, paved way for love and respect for each other.