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Stereotyped! #MyfriendAlexa

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Sun, 09 Sep 2018 04:00:00 +0000

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I never really knew,

We had to cut through,

To know where we stand,

When it doesn’t even look very grand,

As a girl child,

I am always expected to reconcile.

Maybe I lived in a dream,

Without knowing everything was a scheme,

When I became a graduate,

I never knew I was a marriage bait,

When I started working,

I never knew it was just to save for my wedding!

I had dreams aplenty,

Until my twenties,

I rebelled for a long time,

I was treated like I committed a crime,

All that I need,

Is to dream again and sow the seeds.

I must admit,

That I was never unfit,

But made to feel that way,

So I will never have a say,

I am here to have a go at it,

And preach to others not to fall into that pit.

We the women,

Are here to stay,

Let our barriers break away,

It is our time anyway,

Let us teach our little girls to dream,

And believe they are always supreme.

Come what may,

We must stay

With our heads held high

And not one bit shy,

For who we are,

And take pride in coming so far.

We have every right,

To question with deep sight,

A shift that brings light,

And changes our plight,

To make our future bright,

Because we are our own knight!

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Letter to My Blog #MyFriendAlexa

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Wed, 05 Sep 2018 04:00:00 +0000

Hello My Dear Blog,

I will start with a Thank You! I owe you one and I haven’t said that in years to you! I am sorry about that! Thanks to #Blogchatter for reminding me to do so. You are such a wonderful listener and you have borne me for almost a decade now. I started out writing only as a means to earn some money, but you have helped me emerge as a blogger, writer and a better reader. You have reflected my mind in every single occasion. Right from expressing my confusions as a person to an evolving parent, you have helped me express myself much better than I do in in conversations.

I have opened up very little with people in person except for few close friends. It’s you who are helping me break my barriers one at a time and you are also helping me become a better person. I used to just rant around when I started you, but you are making me focus on my writing, on myself and everything around me. You have been an amazing platform to present my writing to the entire world, something that I never thought possible. Something I never knew was possible. Something I never believed was possible. You made it all come true. I cherish every moment I type and post something in this space.

I wasn’t very sure how it would be if I self-hosted this website. I am thinking deeply about it. I would love to give you a makeover and let you breathe a little easier. Would you love a makeover? I wish you do. I really didn’t have a strategy when I first created you.(Aw, I sound like a scientist). Well, I still don’t have a great strategy, but I have a vision for you. I am working on it. I share my poems, my two cents on parenting, relationship and gratitude here. Life is kind to me in many ways and you have helped me see that in every occasion. You have changed my views on almost everything and I am glad to have an opinion about everything I see. Though I am not good enough to present my points here clearly, I know I would do it soon.

If not for you, Life would have been miserable. I wouldn’t have found a friend who listened intently and patiently as you did. I would have succumbed to tough times and would have never found my way out of them. If not for you, I wouldn’t have seen the light at the end of the tunnel. If not for you, I would have just flared up at everyone and be a snarling dragon who spit fire everywhere. I would have just existed, not lived. I am thankful, grateful and blessed for your presence in my life. You have always been better than the best of everything I ever had and you help me cherish everything I have.

I love you! I love you to the moon and back! You are my bubbly blog and you will always hold a special place in my heart ever! I am truly, madly and deeply in love with you! Nothing can change my love for you, darling!

Hugs,
Bestie!

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Why We Must Attempt New Things Every Now and Then?

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Mon, 02 Oct 2017 06:10:00 +0000

I love patterns. Be it as doodles or in saris. I am not a good artist. My Engineering graphics 3D assignments are the only ones I can proudly call as my experimentation with drawing. The casual art stops with flowers. I would rate my culinary skills better than my rangolis. Somehow, I am fond of patterns. I could admire paintings for hours for its beauty, but cannot do one myself. Since I never draw much, I don’t have anything to color. During pregnancy, I read about how coloring relaxes the mind. I love Mandala art and doodling patterns. The base of any art is a black pen. I love black color. The only reason that existed for me to go ahead and try.

One fine day, I wanted to doodle. I tried to push it away, but the urge was very strong. Recreating art was not my idea. So I skipped seeing Images in Google and directly opened YouTube. I searched for ways to doodle easily. More than 1000 videos popped as a result of my search. When I previewed one of the videos, the original poster started it from a random art. I watched the video with so much eagerness. I felt nice after watching it. I felt I could do that. I started without any expectations. By the end of it, I was only glad I did it. Mine was not the best art, but it just made me feel better. This is my first doodle.

30 JANUARY 2017 – HELLO HELLO doodling! I’m ❤in it! #firstdoodle #fms_hello #fmsphotochallenge #fatmumslim #hiyapapayaphotoaday #nothingisordinary #cherishinglifemoments #fmsphotoaday #fmspad #365_today #lovecolors #adoodleaday2017

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A thing of beauty is a joy forever – John Keats

Such a lovely gift from a family friend.. ? you guys. #pregnancydiaries #pregnantlife

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A family friend surprised me by gifting me a pregnancy meditation coloring book. I must say, I love coloring in it. It has those lovely words inscribed on the art about mamma and baby. Sometimes we must just try certain things without much thought. This poem is my Day 30 poem of 100 Days of Poetry, the freedom to try new things without setting expectations.

One Pen, different write-ups,

One person, many dimensions,

When an opportunity presents itself,

We are first filled with doubts and fears,

We ask questions that never existed before,

However, once we calm down and think about it,

It all melts away slowly and we gear up and begin,

We become what we always wanted to become.

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Unanswered…………. #MondayMusings

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Mon, 18 Jul 2016 11:00:00 +0000

Past…. A way we lived.

As my travelling time is almost 4 hrs to and fro to work, I have all the time in the world to check out the road outside my bus. The wackiest thoughts are about the number of turned over cars,lorries, sometimes even tractors and any other vehicle lying on the road dismantled covered by blood and flesh. Every time I find any vehicle on any side of the road in an awkward position then it is a symbol of accident.

The Highways has seen more to it. The sides of the National Highways and State Highways are mostly covered by a lot of bushes and thickened by trees. When you look into the depths of those sides you’ll find some vehicle that had met with an accident long back. Losing some of my mom’s cousins in a car accident has made her avoid such scenes on the highways whereas my mind opens up for these inquiries. I know this must be weird. Right from my college days, I am seeing stuffs like this and so accidents for instance has become a part of daily routine and nothing more.

But when I was contemplating about these minor and major road accidents the only thought that was constantly revolving in my mind was ‘Were they with their family after a happy outing/trip?’ ‘Did they ever know that this would be their trip straight to the gates of heaven/hell?’

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There are so many other questions left unanswered………..

Who are we to blame in an accident?

Do the stressed life style add to the increase in accidents?

Is accident a mistake every time?

Why we people don’t dare to show any kind of humanistic disciplines even in the scenes of accidents?

When people are curious to see accidents why are we not curious enough to help?

Why are a lot of school vans meeting with accidents now-a-days?

Why the hell do we need money and power when it is of no use to anyone?

Why on the face of the earth are people running behind money and power?

Is money worth without the power?

Is power worth without money?

Why do people spend their life and soul for the sake a small appreciation?

Why people who try to be perfect mostly end up having a trauma?

Why on earth am I thinking of all this??????????

List continues..

Why is it always easy to ask questions than to find answers??

WHY???

#Sad #Curious #Unanswered #MondayMusings

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WTFOW5: Day #6: A Woman Has The Right To Say NO

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Sat, 16 Jul 2016 03:00:00 +0000

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Lately, I have heard a couple of incidents where recently married couples have approached the court for divorce. I know what it means and how difficult it can get for the people involved. The first and foremost issue being forced marriage, yes this still happens, in educated families too(mostly). However, the second main reason is being unable to respond during pressure. Many Indian families, from what I understand South Indian parents use status as a key issue. The caste is hidden, but still the social status and peer respect plays a vital role in marriage.

On deeper investigation, it is blowing a simple family scenario, out of proportion by society (let’s call it neighbors, extended family, relatives, blah). They are not even aware of the pressure they are increasing the pressure on the woman who is willing to get married, but not to a particular alliance or at that moment. In the case of marriage, whatever the age of the woman is, it is the right of the woman to decide whom to marry, irrespective of the type of marriage.

Most of the men and women today fall into a common category of engineers and this is not even a primary category for marriage between two humans. However, this is mostly an unfortunate case, marrying other degree holders gives rise to status issues per elders, at least one sector of this kind still exists. Arguing about things like education is not going to change the degree.

Similarly, the salary of a guy outside a particular state (eg. Comparison of Karnataka and Tamil Nadu or Mumbai and Kolkata! (argh.. How stupid?)) would look higher for the age. But for god sake, that might be the normal standard in that state. Never compare the earning capacity of a man or woman with the annual income till date. We never know whether the person is enjoying their job or waiting to quit anytime without our knowledge.

Social Etiquettes (Drinking and Smoking), this gets personal. When a person says he/she is an occasional drinker/smoker, ask what are their occasions anyway? Indians have at least a festival a month, who knows the guy/girl, might drink during all these occasions. Till you get personal with the person do not trust this statement, and if you want a total teetotaller there are very few who exist, but I guarantee you will find one! J

If people around you throw tantrums to keep you quiet, just walk out of the place, but be stubborn with your decision. They are not going to live life after marriage. It’s you who is going to face the truth a little later than much before. Walking out a little late could have its consequences where the same people who threw tantrums and said you will change once you get married will be in the opposite bench waiting to trash you and say you should have made tantrums and stopped.

Remember, Everyone in this world needs breathing space to clear their head and make their very own life decisions and take responsibility for their very own decisions.

Last but not the least, rejecting a person’s profile for marriage does not mean rejecting the person itself, but in the most pressured moment, people might make you feel like you are the worst woman/man existing on this earth. But that’s fine. It’s better to cut the cord right there than have plenty of people cutting their cords with you a little later ruining everything you had always wanted.

This gives a stronger chance to believe yourself and trust your guts. And for those who have chosen to cut the cord after marriage, still understand that you are doing this only to eliminate further negativity brought up in the relationship and definitely not once rejecting the person for his/her abilities. This gives peace to move on without feeling guilty and to make better lives in different paths for both.

Belief in self rather than a crowd is a better option at any point in life. You have no idea when they will leave you alone or stamp you.

Appreciate any man or woman who says NO. It’s not a common word, but it’s a word to notice. Everything that really matters in a relationship is love, care and togetherness. Not a thing more. Some fights can make two people closer and two people to walk out quickly. That’s the difference.

Whatever happens some people stay together whereas some other choose to move out for the sake of peace of self.

Finally, all said,

Let go of the person you love

if they come back to you, then you belong together,

if they are running really far away from you, kindly let them go, they were never yours!

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WTFOW5: Day #5: Will I Quit Forever?

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Fri, 15 Jul 2016 15:30:00 +0000

#FridayReflections

What’s a big mistake you made? What did you learn from it?

Pain is deep rooted in my heart,

Every step forward is difficult to take,

Problem after problem without solution,

I am in the middle of nowhere,

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

Pain is the only word I have known,

Where is happiness in this life?

Don’t I deserve it ever in this life?

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

I am not able to make both ends meet,

I fight everyday with my wife over money and status,

It’s ages since I laughed or smiled with my kids,

I can’t share what I feel or how I feel,

My feeling of worthlessness increases day by day even after working 9 hours a day,

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

Every side I turn I have debt,

Every work I attempt, ends in failure,

Is my presence in this earth a burden to all?

Is this life worth living?

I quit!

As the rope fails me while attempting suicide,

I look up to god and ask, won’t you let me die too?

I can see my family surrounded by me crying and shouting for me to wake up,

Had I been worthless would they have cried?

Had I been a burden wouldn’t they let me be?

What have I done?

Waking up from death bed isn’t the easiest task,

But that’s the farthest I could go,

I have made up my mind, in god I trust!

I decided to live which is tougher than death!

DEDICATION to all those who choose to live life after facing death before their eyes.

God wants you to live.

Make a promise to God not to choose death during difficult times.

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WTFOW5: Day 4: A World Like That

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Thu, 14 Jul 2016 04:00:00 +0000

This poem is dedicated to Saving Sould

What would have happened?

If I was ever told as a kid that

books were only for the rich?

If every penny I stealthily hid only to buy books

when everyone else needed food to survive?

To the reader in me*,

if there were no free books?

To the writer in me,

if only I had not read and framed everything

with the best companion,

the books I read in the library,

my first place where I learnt to sit and think!

To the power of imagination in me,

if I had not sat down and read various genres?

To the creator in me,

If I had not spent hours after hours

in the libraries

,

feeling secure about my thoughts

and continued to write?

To the viewer in me who is excited

to read and find similarities and enjoy the flow of writing,

To all the times when I had no hope that

I could ever keep a step forward in my life

and there was a book that God showed me

as a path and the courage to keep that step forward?

To all the thoughts and ideas,

had I not written and shared with all people I know

also helped me know myself better than ever!

To all the souls who have found solace in the books?

To the world around me,

which I have learnt to view from every perspective

with the help of books.

To the explorer in me,

if there were no libraries which was more like talking to God

and enjoying the conversations,

To the soul searcher in me,

whose repeated thoughts of negativity hindered the flow within me,

courage, strength and motivation is what

I got from books

and pushed me forward!

To the ability to see the positive side

in most critical situations

and how I learned to analyze situations?

To all the knowledge in me from learning?

The way of Life it has taught me?

To my long stares at the shelves of the school library

to know what genre means and

why everything follows a particular order!

To be with my best companion

without any restrictions,

If I had no way to express all that I learnt?

To the dreamer in me, who has always hoped for the best

and understood that struggle is necessary

to achieve the goals of our life!

To the merriment it brings

to be one with the books

and took us back to the

once lived generations,

To know right from wrong,

To even know the laws you guys frame now!

DEAD…

Closing libraries means demolishing future growth and generations,

Closing libraries is slaving the future and getting closer to doomsday,
Our history is from the books we have seen!

Our present is with the dreams we dream and our future lies in the fulfilled dreams!

There is no past, present or future without books!

This will bring a revolution that people keen on closing libraries will have to face!

Trying to kill people is war, but trying to kill the thirst for knowledge is equivalent to committing a sin to every single being on this earth, that never has moksha!

Me* here indicates the multiple personalities in each human being which has helped human stay sane for years and generations!

This is for Lynn Rosen and WTFOW #5

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Haiku Horizons & WTFOW5 #3: Clock

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Wed, 13 Jul 2016 13:44:00 +0000

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She glanced at the clock,

both hands together at 12

had he understood!

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WTFOW5 Day #2: Learning to Receive

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Tue, 12 Jul 2016 02:38:00 +0000

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Many times when bad things happen, I ask God, “Why me?”
For the first time, I asked God, “Why me?” for a good thing.
I heard an answer that made me smile.

Usually, I am your last hope, but now you have surrendered to me before draining your energy in worry!

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I fret over many things. It doesn’t matter if it’s big or small. I spend too much time over it that I forget it has to be solved “in reality”. At times, the solution that I conceive in my mind makes me feel that I have already accomplished the task. The games mind play! I never used to ask for help even in the most needed times! I have faced some miserable experiences because of this!

My grandmother is my biggest inspiration when it comes to believing in a superior power that exists. Her faith shatters my fears. She lives her life as if God is her friend and he holds her safely in his palms. At 80, she is carefree and enjoys life like there is no tomorrow.

She taught me to leave the problems as well as the credits to God and just live life with gratitude. I was eager, but I was not ready to leave my comfort zone for the struggle. Living mindfully is an unwritten rule to live by daily and there is no looking back once you start it. I had to accept my extreme laziness here and I was an awful procrastinator.

I am slowly changing, but I see the change is happening for the better. Any problem, big or small, I just close my eyes and tell God, I need help. This has done me wonders than anything else. Finally, I don’t feel I am depending on someone for some thing, but I am glad I am talking to God and making life easy!

God taught me one thing, Devotion is the ultimate aim to maintain that connection with the superior power! It could be anyway as long as we feel connected with God! We get from God and give to others. This feeling rules out the option of negativity in me! 🙂

How did you learn to receive?

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Write Tribe Challenge #1: Show Some Stray Love!

Jayanthy Govindarajan — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 11:45:00 +0000

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My Bad: I thought the contest starts today! 🙁 My Bad, Apologies for joining late!

The Day’s Post:

I love pets, especially dogs. I have a very alert and super friendly
mongrel. These are well-known traits of this breed. I am a sincere fan of adopting stray dogs over buying toy dogs. Whenever I have dog-conversations with “elite” dog owners, I get a sleazy look because I have a mongrel at home! Seriously, I don’t understand what bothers them that I own a country pet/ mongrel that I adopted from a neighbor nearby.

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I love pets, especially dogs. I have a very alert and super friendly

mongrel. These are well-known traits of this breed. I am a sincere fan of adopting stray dogs over buying toy dogs. Whenever I have dog-conversations with “elite” dog owners, I get a sleazy look because I have a mongrel at home! Seriously, I don’t understand what bothers them that I own a country pet/ mongrel that I adopted from a neighbour nearby.

I have a mongrel who will be 5 this September. We adopted him when he was just 4 months old. My other pet was a Mongrel + Rajapalayam cross. She passed away when she was just 7 months old due to distemper. This incident has changed me a lot, over time. Many people consider barking street dogs as a disturbance. Nowadays, it is also becoming common to raise a complaint and be free of street dogs. One thing to remember here is that street dogs are “guardians of the street” if you know their value. Every street dog has it’s right to live where it wills.

To all those “elite” crowds who think possessing a dog worth Rs. 25,000 or more is a matter of status, I am sorry to say, you have got it entirely wrong. Most people complain about stray dogs barking in the streets and how disturbing it is. Do you know what actually happens on the streets some nights? Do you even have the slightest idea of how street-smart these pets are?

My mother feeds 2 to 3 stray pets every day. They are such sweet loyal beings who protect us. I have noticed they are so protective of their owners that they don’t let any person with wrong intentions come closer. All this just for feeding them once a day. Let me say here, I have more enemies in the street because every time the corporation guys come to pick up the dogs, we ask them to leave them here because they belong to us.

I agree at times I am annoyed by the barking in the middle of the night. These are times I stand by the window and watch what’s happening on the road and why the dog is barking. Almost 3 out of 4 times, it’s due to suspicious behaviour in the street. When we learn to respect the dog, the dog’s barking is more helpful than disturbing.

We human beings live in a stressed world, I don’t like to call it a busy world. No person is too busy to stop and be kind to someone. A kind act is all it takes to make us real human. Help someone in need, that someone might be you, tomorrow!

Every dog is cute, it’s the owner that matters more when it comes to a dog’s behaviour! 🙂

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